kreb
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Two users who dislike each other
I would like to point out and report two users who dislike each other and says so on their profile:-
http://www.postcrossing.com/user/mullenkedheim
http://www.postcrossing.com/user/poussemoussu
I received a good postcard from mullenkedheim, so I have nothing against him.
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mingshu
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huh, they both sound very rude  |
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Mickaela
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Well, I must say I can't exactly see the issue there... if anything, it's amusing that two adult men would be arguing over a postcard  |
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CaptainSoul
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Quote: Originally posted by Mickaela  | | Well, I must say I can't exactly see the issue there... if anything, it's amusing that two adult men would be arguing over a postcard |
I am almost positive it's not about the postcard itself, but I'm guessing it's about the nature of the guesthouse being promoted. The "guesthouse"
being referred to here is not your typical "family" establishment; rather, it caters to the gay traveler. Provincetown, Massachusetts is a village
noted for its beaches, harbor, artists and....a vacation spot for gay travelers. Another clue? - look at the profile picture that the second
PostCrosser ("poussemoussu") used .
Of course, this should not cause civility to be tossed aside in a community like this one. |
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mingshu
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oh well, i do think it is not really child friendly profile  ...no sense advertising a gay guesthouse for kids who are big part of postcrossing ?? it seems to be the same as if there was
eg. religious propaganda on a profile advertising a
religious community or whatever  |
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Beachyblonde
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Wow- I didn't think you were supposed to write things about people in your profile.
I received a card from poussemoussu and it does look like an ad card, but I didn't think it was that big of a deal since it was only my 3rd card. Now
that I have put a bit of money into sending out cards I don't always appreciate ad cards, but I assume he puts money into his too.
I just think it's a little immature that they are posting that stuff in their profiles. |
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AndAllThatJazz
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My opinion? They both sound like lovely people except for the last paragraph of their profile. When someone registers my card without leaving a
message, I just move on. Both of them are being very immature. |
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scrutiny
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Oh for heaven's sake...  |
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elicat
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I just find it funny that mullenkedheim preaches on the forum how a postcard is a postcard no matter what junk you get (and btw has a "RELAX" avatar),
but on the other hand gets so~o upset about a promotion postcard that he wants to "make a statement" by not saying thanks
And in poussemousse's profile it doesn't say it's a gay guesthouse? So how is his profile not child-friendly? |
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yvi-1
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Sometimes I just want to scream. Those poor kids. Child friendly has nothing to do with limiting kids to things adult subjectively think are bad for
them and everything to do with giving children environments where they can learn and express themselves without being discriminated against or
stereotyped.
Additionally, while Postcrossing has participants who are children, I know of nowhere where it says that the site is specifically geared towards
children or families. They couldn't possibly claim such a thing because they cannot control what postcards people send.
Sigh. |
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Mickaela
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I'm with you on that, ivy-1! Besides, the user doesn't actually mention being gay or running a gay-friendly guesthouse anywhere on his profile, and
his avatar is just two men with their shirts off - from the back! I really have a hard time seeing how a man's back is obscene or not child-friendly
Back on topic, though, I don't think there's anything to be reported about these profiles. It's a ridiculous thing to do, but since it's reciprocal,
there was hardly any harm done, I would say... |
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szirmaik
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I agree with ivy-1 and Mickaela Let's just suspect that a user
with children receives one of those "ad" cards from this guy... and so what? There is less than 1% chance that they will think "oh, that's gay
propaganda" and even less that the child will actually care.
By the way, what's the problem with children getting to know there are also people who prefer the same gender? Kids are, as a rule, smarter than you
would ever think (like that a 7-year-old girl would announce, after coming home from school, that she knew what sex was? Well, that was me...), on the
other hand, they often don't make a fuss about things adults would, creating an explanation in their own simple but wise way. |
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Mickaela
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| Quote: Originally posted by szirmaik | I agree with ivy-1 and Mickaela Let's just suspect that a user
with children receives one of those "ad" cards from this guy... and so what? There is less than 1% chance that they will think "oh, that's gay
propaganda" and even less that the child will actually care.
By the way, what's the problem with children getting to know there are also people who prefer the same gender? Kids are, as a rule, smarter than you
would ever think (like that a 7-year-old girl would announce, after coming home from school, that she knew what sex was? Well, that was me...), on the
other hand, they often don't make a fuss about things adults would, creating an explanation in their own simple but wise way. |
I love you, Kriszti  I was a lot less uptight when I was 7 than I
am now |
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| Quote: Originally posted by Mickaela | | I'm with you on that, ivy-1! Besides, the user doesn't actually mention being gay or running a gay-friendly guesthouse anywhere on his profile, and
his avatar is just two men with their shirts off - from the back! I really have a hard time seeing how a man's back is obscene or not child-friendly
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You are 90% correct that nothing is stated explicitly in the profile about the guesthouse being "gay-friendly." But he did put a link in the
profile to the guesthouse Web site. If you take the time to REALLY look at the site like I did, there is no doubt as to the clientele they cater to.
Concerning the picture used in the profile - while I don't think the photo itself is obscene, I do believe it sends a subtle message. |
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CaptainSoul
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| Quote: Originally posted by yvi-1 | Sometimes I just want to scream. Those poor kids. Child friendly has nothing to do with limiting kids to things adult subjectively think are bad for
them and everything to do with giving children environments where they can learn and express themselves without being discriminated against or
stereotyped.
Additionally, while Postcrossing has participants who are children, I know of nowhere where it says that the site is specifically geared towards
children or families. They couldn' t possibly claim such a thing because they cannot control what postcards people send.
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I don't think anyone will disagree with you about the nature of PostCrossing and who it appeals to. I also agree with you that you can't control what
people send. Only one person made mention of this "child-friendly" thing. That was their personal opinion, although it was off topic, since the issue
was between two adult users who have a problem with each other.
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So True!!!! And I had a good laugh reading the nonsense on both of their profiles
| Quote: Originally posted by elicat | I just find it funny that mullenkedheim preaches on the forum how a postcard is a postcard no matter what junk you get (and btw has a "RELAX" avatar),
but on the other hand gets so~o upset about a promotion postcard that he wants to "make a statement" by not saying thanks
And in poussemousse's profile it doesn't say it's a gay guesthouse? So how is his profile not child-friendly? |
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Reynardo
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Ooops! So should Cuton delete what he's written at the bottom of his profile about Gordon?
(If you saw what Gordon had done to the picture of Cuton on his Facebook, you'd think Cuton's response quite mild!)
More seriously, a) if you don't specifically point out to kids that it's a gay profile, most kids will be "oh" and not notice or care. b) If a pair
of adults want to act like a pair of kids with their squabble, isn't it up to the rest of us to show that we can treat each other like adults, ignore
their grumbles, and just keep sending more and more cards :-) Ignore the dislike and send more love! |
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Sometimes it amazes how childish us adults can behave...
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I don't see much of a problem here. Sure, calling each other out in a public place like their profiles is immature, but isn't that the same thing
that has happened with this thread?
I've sent a postcard to poussemoussu and he was very very nice - he sent me a long message after receiving the card. Very polite and friendly.
Also, the whole child-friendly debate is ridiculous. A profile on PC is someplace where we are encouraged to say something about ourselves.
Poussemoussu did nothing but say a few facts about his life. But then, maybe I'm biased since my parents took me to Provincetown (where his business
is) when I was a child. It's a very fun place! |
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I received a guest house card from poussemoussu and I liked the card very much, since I collect hotel cards, and there was nothing wrong with the card
in my opinion.
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MichelleW
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I think it morphed into a shoving match between two little boys. As has been pointed out in other threads, while it is disappointing that someone
chooses not to say anything about your card, the message IS optional.
Children, children - to your corners.
Oh - sorry - you lost me on the gay thing...I don't get where that came from at all. Too dim, I guess, to get it. |
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Michelle, the only clue apparently was the avatar and then looking through the website very carefully... but I didn't find anything either, so I guess
you're not dim |
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Old thread, I know, but...
If an establishment is gay-friendly, that does not mean people are having sex in the hallways, guys. (Unless there was something on the website that
said people actually *do* have sex in the hallways, since the link to the place is long gone.)
Sorry, just an enormous pet peeve of mine. People are much more than their sex lives, and that includes out & proud queer people like myself. |
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what a pity, I am really really courious about what they wrote in their profiles...
PS: my avatar of postcrossing is also 2 men |
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